Why Does He Like All His Ex's Posts?
It’s not necessarily a red flag, but it’s definitely a brightly colored caution sign.
It’s not necessarily a red flag, but it’s definitely a brightly colored caution sign. Following an ex is one thing—some people stay friendly or just never bother to hit that unfollow button. But frequently liking her posts? That’s where things get a little icky.
Look, it’s 2025. We all know that liking someone’s posts—especially an ex’s—isn’t just an innocent tap; it’s a choice. If it’s happening often, it’s fair to wonder why he’s so invested in keeping that connection alive.
You’re not overthinking it; you’re just paying attention. Unfortunately, this is one of those scenarios where you're revealing something about yourself that might be used against you.
How do you explain that you know his behavior without telling on yourself? Then again, maybe that's precisely what you want to happen. How he responds could indicate his motive for maintaining that connection with his Ex. If he gets defensive or attempts to gaslight you into thinking you're insecure or crazy, ditch him. That's not how an empathetic person would respond. They might ask how you noticed, which is a perfectly acceptable response. However, it shouldn't be the first place they go. Their initial response should address your question. If their immediate reaction is to make it about you, don't ignore that.
I think what you describe sounds excessive. On the other hand, it might just be that his algorithm is a messy bitch, and so he likes the posts to be nice.
Does this behavior make you feel uneasy? If so, it’s worth having a conversation. No, you don’t need to go full detective mode, but a casual, “Hey, I noticed you’re still pretty engaged with your ex’s posts. What’s up with that?” can give you some insight.
The real question is, why were you looking in the first place? It's expected to be curious about your partner's romantic past. What you describe feels more pointed. Before you open up a dialogue with him about this, you must introspect. What compelled you to become aware of this? Is he exhibiting other, more concerning, behavior? Or are you still healing from a betrayal? Be clear on that with yourself so you can communicate your intentions effectively.
Bottom line: Trust your gut. If it’s bugging you now, it’ll only bug you more later.
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