Why Do Conservative Men Keep Swiping Right On Liberal Women?

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Why are so many white men who have conservative or moderate matching with me on Bumble? Especially since I am black and have liberal.

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Before I start, in order to match you both have to swipe right on each other. Either you’re not reading their profile, you are but are disregarding their political affiliation, or you’re just curious to see if they swiped right. All three options are a gigantic waste of your time. The other possibilities are you’re using the word “matching” to refer to men who are liking/swiping on your profile. Please clarify if you can in the comments.

After The Insurrection last year, Bumble removed the political affiliation field on people’s profiles. This was a result of a groundswell of reporting done on the profiles of conservative men. Some were stupid enough to post photos of themselves at The Capitol on January 6th or bragged about it to matches.

After that happened, many people decided to leave the political party field on their profile unchecked. Others opted for identifying as Apolitical or Moderate so they weren’t filtered out of as many searches.

As for your specific question, I think there are a few possible reasons you’re experiencing this.

1. The gender disparity on apps for straight singles is something in the range of 70% men and 30% women. As a result, men swipe on just about everybody regardless of whether or not they read the profile.

2. The men you’re matching with are of the belief that a couple can survive having different political ideologies as long as there’s mutual respect.

3. The men swiping right on you know your political affiliation and think it’s not an issue because it’s not one to them.

4. You have a disclaimer of some kind in your profile and conservatives are seeing that as a waving red flag and are looking for an argument.

Until conservative and liberal men have at stake what women have at stake when it comes to voting, they’re not going to be as discerning about who they date. For women, it’s literal life and death. We can’t afford to vote against our best interests. (Though some of us do!)

A lot of men - certainly the ones swiping on your profile - don’t see why it’s such a big deal that liberal women prefer to date someone of the same political party. As Sarah said on a recent podcast, “You can’t have potential chemistry with someone you hate.” She wasn’t just referring to the disdain liberal women have for conservative men. She was also addressing the obvious disregard conservatives have for women to actively rob them of their bodily autonomy, among other things. To be with a woman and believe she doesn’t have the right to do with her body what she chooses is to not love her. Those two things are incongruous.

Any time a conservative person tries to match with someone in a marginalized community, they tell on themselves. They’re letting that potential match know they don’t care that how they vote directly impacts that person’s rights.

In addition to checking off the Liberal box on your profile, you may wish to include that fact somewhere in your bio. Avoid any disclaimers about how people of different parties should not apply or swipe left. Just incorporate the word “liberal” in the main bio section or one of your prompts. Go into too much detail and you’ll attract people looking to convert or debate you.

Unfortunately, you have no control over who reads or doesn’t read your profile. All you can control are the steps you take to filter out undesirable matches.

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