Why Can't She Get A Second Date?

i’ve been on a few first dates where guys will suggest meeting up again & mention when they’re free.. & then i hear nothing after the date. are they doing this to seem nice & avoid an awkward end to the date or is it likely a realization later on that they weren’t feeling the connection after all??

What you’re likely experiencing is a by-product of what’s called The Paradox of Choice. This is when someone is presented with an overload of options, then struggles to choose just one. When they do, they’re more likely to be satisfied with the choice and return to the group of options to make a different choice.

People go home after a first date - even a great first date - and they start to think. In many cases, they’ll misremember things said or done on the date in order to support their choice to return to the app or schedule more first dates with current matches.

These people are what’s known as “maximizers.” They’re singles who, like Goldilocks, want to find a partner that’s just righ…