DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE:
I’m preparing to go back onto the apps after taking a yearlong break to focus on myself. In the last 6 years, I’ve lost someone close to me every year, including a parent. This tremendous period of loss was proceeded by the end of a toxic relationship, so I’ve been largely single during this entire period - with the exception of several situationships.
After lots of therapy, quitting drinking, and making space to heal, I finally feel ready for a serious relationship. My concern with dating again is potentially trauma bonding with someone, especially since I may be dating many other sober folks. I know I shouldn’t share all the details of my life in the first few dates, but I also don’t want to appear closed off & secretive, since this trauma & recovery period has truly effected every aspect of my life.
And even if I don’t share, I’m scared potentially hearing any of their trauma early on may create that Trauma Bond within me as well. Any suggestions would be …
