Make Men Earn Your Time

In Nov 2021 I matched with a guy who I was really interested in. We had a good introductory phone conversation and so we made plans to meet on the weekend. However I had to reschedule as my friend came to stay with me that weekend from out of town and I didnt want to ditch her. He was understanding and offered to take us both out, my friend declined as she said it would be awkward. So he and I agreed to postpone.

We messaged back and forth for a week but no follow-up plans. In December I matched with a new guy who I started to date in Jan. New guy is showing serious red flags as he lied about being married and now insists he is separated so I am ready to move on. However, now the first guy is reaching out to me asking to arrange a date and I am not sure if i should take him seriously. He hasn't addressed the 2/3months he was non communicative.

I live in a small city and suspect they may both know each other. My suspicion is because the new guy asked me if i had met anyone prior to him…