Is She Attracting The Wrong Men Because She's Too Sexy?

Hello! In the past I have had friends tell me I look “too sexy.” And attract the wrong type of guys. I am blonde, natural big boobs, butt, lips. So I guess I have a natural “sexy.” Look. The only thing is I take pride in my appearance and I don’t think I should change how I am or look to attract a man. I think that someone should take the time to get to know you for you rather than how you look. But because of how I look I do attract the wrong type of men or just guys looking to hook up. How do I meet someone who’s actually a genuine guy?

It’s the internalized misogyny for me.

Telling a woman she looks too sexy and that’s why she attracts creepy men just looking for a quick hook-up is a way to shame the woman and excuse the man. We’re not going to do that.

There’s enough external messaging out there that tries to shame women for not looking like a Barbie Doll. We don’t need that kind of nonsense from other women.

You could wear a burlap sack and flip flops in your photos or to the club…