How Do You Stop Hating Your Ex?

How to stop hating your ex because he mistreated you? I know I allowed it but I can't move on and stop feeling the rage inside because of it.

Many years ago I got involved with a guy, Graham, who ended up being so mentally harmful I became undone. To the general public, I came off completely stable. To my close friends, however, I was a mess. I ruminated endlessly about him. I obsessed. I Facebook stalked him and his new girlfriend.

I kept my distance from him throughout this downward spiral. I didn’t have much of a choice. He was keeping a close eye on my behavior and public posting. This only added to my contempt for him. Not only had he unceremoniously discarded me but he was happily involved with someone else. Being the narcissist he was, he prioritizied protecting his public image. That was the motivation for keeping tabs on anything I wrote or posted. If I so much as mentioned him anywhere, there would be changes to his various social media settings within hours. He knew everythi…