I read Kat’s story first then came to your thoughts on it and it really had me see the story more clearly. Your perspective of j was very eye opening and insightful. I really hope Kat doesn’t compare her future relationships with the feelings she felt while with j. Thank you for helping me see this with a different perspective that I originally had.
I had exactly this experience about 10 years ago with a female platonic friend that only wanted to call and talk to me about herself. I had to fight to make a comment about myself. I would start to talk about me she had nothing to say no validation for me nothing and that's when I realized she was using me. I wasn't into her that way and never developed any of those feelings for her.
I'm asexual bi romantic. I've been on dates with men and women and gotten to know both men and women in asexual communities. There's a terrible amount of allosexual people, man and women alike, who are there to try to "conquer" asexuals. They get in your head and then try to get in your pants. It's disgusting.
I really enjoy looking at people I can appreciate people's beauty but sexual desire is just not a part of who I am, and I've learned to accept that. I thought for a long time something was truly wrong with me. How could I have attractions to both men and women but not want to go to that sort of intimacy with them? I learned about asexuality and I was gone to counseling and spoken about it at length and figured myself out.
I have searched for love and found so many people like J. It's gotten to the point where I don't think I could ever find someone that I can truly be in love with, share my life with, who won't try to push me into something that they know I don't want. That won't belittle me for refusing. I just don't think it's possible. I can't trust dating sites that promise asexual matches when the people on there are mostly liars. Or demisexuals. I have always been very open with everyone I've met about what to expect from me and then waste my time for a year or more just for it to end in heartbreak.
I really don't know what to do. I don't know of any bloggers that really speak on this in detail the way you do for allosexuals.
I do wish that there was more discussion around asexuality. I think it's far more common than people realize. Especially now. We're told that we're supposed to want physical intimacy and that that's a natural and normal and required part of a romantic relationship.But it's simply isn't true.
I read Kat’s story first then came to your thoughts on it and it really had me see the story more clearly. Your perspective of j was very eye opening and insightful. I really hope Kat doesn’t compare her future relationships with the feelings she felt while with j. Thank you for helping me see this with a different perspective that I originally had.
Yeah. I think you have to experience it to see it. It sucks she had to go through it.
I had exactly this experience about 10 years ago with a female platonic friend that only wanted to call and talk to me about herself. I had to fight to make a comment about myself. I would start to talk about me she had nothing to say no validation for me nothing and that's when I realized she was using me. I wasn't into her that way and never developed any of those feelings for her.
I'm asexual bi romantic. I've been on dates with men and women and gotten to know both men and women in asexual communities. There's a terrible amount of allosexual people, man and women alike, who are there to try to "conquer" asexuals. They get in your head and then try to get in your pants. It's disgusting.
I really enjoy looking at people I can appreciate people's beauty but sexual desire is just not a part of who I am, and I've learned to accept that. I thought for a long time something was truly wrong with me. How could I have attractions to both men and women but not want to go to that sort of intimacy with them? I learned about asexuality and I was gone to counseling and spoken about it at length and figured myself out.
I have searched for love and found so many people like J. It's gotten to the point where I don't think I could ever find someone that I can truly be in love with, share my life with, who won't try to push me into something that they know I don't want. That won't belittle me for refusing. I just don't think it's possible. I can't trust dating sites that promise asexual matches when the people on there are mostly liars. Or demisexuals. I have always been very open with everyone I've met about what to expect from me and then waste my time for a year or more just for it to end in heartbreak.
I really don't know what to do. I don't know of any bloggers that really speak on this in detail the way you do for allosexuals.
I do wish that there was more discussion around asexuality. I think it's far more common than people realize. Especially now. We're told that we're supposed to want physical intimacy and that that's a natural and normal and required part of a romantic relationship.But it's simply isn't true.