Beware The Man That Doesn't Value Your Time
How to avoid being sucked into the Lazy Man Vortex.
So I’m currently talking to two guys right now, I’ll call them Jake and David. I’ve already been on two dates with David and we have a third date planned for this coming weekend. Jake and I have plans for our first date next week. I met both of them at the same time on a dating app two weeks ago. I don’t normally talk to more than one guy at a time, but I’m so used to being disappointed and having my time wasted by men, so I decided to try a different approach to dating this time and not put all of my eggs in one basket. I’m not used to dating two guys at once though and I’m feeling guilty for it.
Even though I’m not in a relationship with either of them yet, I still feel like a bad person for doing this because I don’t want to waste anyone’s time. The reason Jake and I haven’t been on a first date yet is because I guess he wasn’t sure if I was interested so he was leaving it up to me to ask about meeting, but I was waiting for him to ask, so we ended up texting for the last two weeks until I ended up just asking him about it today, because I was wondering why he kept texting me for two weeks without asking me on a date. I thought it was a little odd that he said it was because he wasn’t sure if I was interested, because I feel like I’ve made my interest in him quite clear over the last two weeks, but he said that he was interested in meeting me so we made a plan for next week.
David on the other hand hasn’t been hesitant with asking me out at all, he asked me on the first date within the first couple days after matching on the app. I thought I could handle dating two guys at once but the guilt is really getting to me. I know I haven’t even met Jake in person yet so I know there is a chance that we could end up not liking each other when we meet, but if we do end up liking each other and we decide to continue seeing each other then I could end up having to choose between David and Jake at some point, and that makes me feel really bad, because that means one of them will have had their time wasted. I’m kind of mad at myself for getting myself into this situation. I’m interested in both of them and they both seem very interested in me so choosing between them is going to be hard if it comes to that.
Since David has already taken me on two dates and we already have a third date planned I feel like I owe him and I know after I go on the first date with Jake I’m going to feel like I owe him too, especially since Jake is going to be driving two hours to meet me, he lives two hours away. David lives an hour away. I know one of them could end up losing interest at some point, which I’m honestly hoping that happens so I won’t have to choose. Am I wrong for dating both of these men at the same time?
First, never feel bad about wasting a man’s time unless it’s done to be deliberately cruel. No man has ever said, “Geez, I feel bad about leading that woman on.” Men don’t hesitate to waste a woman’s time if it’s in their best interest. Case in point: Wishy-washy Jake.
Fuck that guy.
